What even is "dating" anymore? I was out for dinner with a guy I've been seeing for a few months now, we will call him Mr. Big (because he reminds me of Mr. Big from Sex and the City), and we started chatting about dating apps. After one of his stories he says "and that's why I don't date". I was like excuse me pretty sure we are on a date right now! Which of course caused an argument that only the internet could settle.
Mr. Big says that he doesn't date girls, he just hangs out with them because if you say you're dating someone it means you're committed to them. When I think of hanging out with someone, I think of it as a strictly platonic get together. I hangout with my friends, not people I'm romantically seeing.
I took to instagram with a poll. "Is casually dating someone the same as hanging out?" and "does saying your dating someone mean commitment?". What I discovered is that almost all the women who voted do not think that casual dating and hanging out are the same thing, but ALL of the men who voted do. However when it came to saying you're "dating" someone almost everyone thinks that means that you are committed to that person.
And as I was pondering those results, I realized that I never really say I'm dating someone. I usually say "the guy I'm seeing". But I would say that we went on a date. I think there is a clear distinction between going on dates and “hanging out”. And actually Mr. Big has called our “hang outs” dates before. When we went to the Christkindlmarket and then Zoo lights, he called it a romantic date. So this makes me wonder if the situation dictates the word?
So, what really constitutes as a date? Clearly just grabbing dinner & drinks does not necessarily constitute as a date. But something as date-like as a Christmas Market and Christmas light show does. Is it the level of romance that decides whether or not it's a date? Tell me your thoughts in the comments below.