Raise your hand if you’ve ever been stood-up. When you’ve been dating via apps for a while this is bound to happen to you at least once. I’ve been using dating apps for a while now and this has happened approximately two times.
The most recent event happened with this guy I had been talking to for about a month. The first time we tried to meet up I legit got strep throat and had to cancel because gross. The next time we made a plan he got stuck at work. At this point I’m like tired of just texting and ready to just actually meet the guy so we make plans for the following weekend with the promise that no matter what it will happen, I think you know where this is going to go.
So the next weekend rolls around and we confirm Saturday morning that we are meeting up, but when I ask where/when to meet him he suddenly goes silent. Like total digital disappearance. By 5:30 I’ve decided I’m not spending my saturday waiting around for some guy to figure his shit out so I call my bff and we make dinner and movie plans which was probably better than the date would have been anyway. But of course, as I’m on my way to meet her for dinner (8:30 at this point) he FINALLY texts me saying “sorry long day at work and fell asleep when I got home just now waking up”. Like ok maybe you had a long day but you couldn't text me back to say "sorry gotta cancel" or "let's meet later it's going to be a long day".
Later in the evening after the movie Mr. Big calls me to hangout so I tell him to meet me at my place. When he gets to my house I tell him the story of the latest tinder guy (actually Happn) and he says the most profound thing that has really stuck with me, he said, “so basically you got optioned”. OMG he’s sooooo damn right. Insert mind blown emoji here.
So how do you know you got optioned? The easiest way to tell is that he keeps telling you he wants to meet up but never actually setting a time. He sets a day to meet up but doesn't make any plans past that and when you suggest a place or a time it "doesn't work". Sometimes he'll even make the plan but then cancel really early in the day, probably because some other girl looked like a better option and agreed to meet him.
I don't think that a reschedule necessarily means you got optioned, but if it happens more than once you're probably being optioned so do with that what you will. If a guy really wants to meet you, he'll make the time otherwise he's probably just on the prowl for the "best" prey. The bottom line is to know that your time is valuable, so don't sit around all night hoping that some guy will decide you're the best option for the evening, call your girls and go out or treat yourself to a night in with a bubble bath, wine, and your favorite movies.
Have you ever been optioned? Tell me your stories in the comments below!